Last Post

 

This is my last blog post! Thank you for anyone who has read throughout these past few months. I have been able to share a lot of what I have been learning about family relations. First, I’ll share what I have learned this week and then do a quick recap.

            This week has been on divorce and reestablished families. Why do people divorce? Some common reasons are because the partners simply cannot stand one another, finances, and selfishness. A common belief is that cheating is a common divider in relationships, but most couples who deal with this actually end up working through it. A predictor for a couple being less likely to divorce is when they are religious. Not just a simple believe on God religion, but consistently going to church and playing a role.

            In Idaho you can get divorced in just ten days whereas in California there is a six-month waiting period. You can be in a bad mood for ten days; some things take time. I have found that many arguments after some time are completely forgotten.  

                        Something that often follows divorce is blended families. Families also have death and lose a member; others may decide to adopt children. What are some challenges and opportunities that come with being part of a blended family? Marriage is different when you jump into it already having kids in the mix, it has been compared to jumping on a moving train.

            There is no good divorce, it is always hard, although sometimes it is necessary. You can work like cray to have a marriage that doesn’t come apart.

 

            To sum up this blog, we have learned so much about families. Something that comes with constantly being around others is conflict. This conflict brings new points of view and allows us to learn more. Most often if I have any disagreement with anyone, when I learn from their side of view, I can understand their side and I usually no longer have a problem with them.

            Another important aspect of relationships is gender. Boys and girls are naturally different. God made Adam and Eve, a male and female, and he gave them each distinct characteristic. When we come together in a relationship, we each bring strengths and weaknesses. These attributes complement one another. For example, I do not like fixing technology stuff, luckily my husband is great at it! I love cooking and my husband won’t do it so much, but it works well because I prefer to do most of the cooking. I need to clarify, sometimes I work with the technology and he makes dinner. We still divide responsibilities around our home.

            Families need to constantly be on guard against anything that could tear them apart. There will always be reasons to spend less time together, outside commitments are taking up more time and family is becoming less of a priority. Our families are so important, whether we want to admit it or not. I am extremely grateful to have a wonderful family. I am not very close to all of my siblings, but we have positive relationships, and we love each other. I actually got to visit family this weekend. My husband and I drove to visit my parents and grandma and aunt and uncles and cousin. We even recently found out that our family will be expanding, we are expecting a child of our own in November! I am so happy to be a mother and it is so special to see my husband excited to be a dad.